[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"detail-JP2025102221332841510":3,"related-JP2025102221332841510":29},{"pageSize":4,"id":5,"productLine":6,"status":7,"articleCode":8,"articleType":9,"showStyle":7,"mediaType":10,"articleTitle":11,"coverImage":12,"listImage":12,"introduction":13,"description":14,"nonVipDescription":15,"postTime":16,"viewTime":16,"sortNumber":17,"isFree":18,"isShowList":7,"isRecommend":18,"linkType":7,"isOriginal":6,"hasMiniUrl":18,"hasAdvertising":18,"createBy":19,"updateBy":19,"createTime":20,"visitCount":21,"isLiked":18,"realSearch":22,"isRead":18,"productId":23,"isCollected":18,"collectCount":18,"vipExclusive":18,"allowComment":7,"style":24,"canCopy":18,"likeCount":7,"seoKeywords":15,"articleModuleVoList":25,"extendContentList":26,"noteCount":18,"categoryList":27,"dailyKeywordList":28},10,7653,"1",1,"JP2025102221332841510","1041018",3,"钱，治不好我的童年","https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fcb990800-161c-49ed-b749-4177fc844683.jpg","双十一，聊聊我们和金钱的关系","\u003Cdiv>\n \u003Csection data-pm-slice=\"3 3 []\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;outline: 0px;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-family: -apple-system, "system-ui", "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;line-height: 1.5em;visibility: visible;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cspan style=\"outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 14px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(98, 90, 90);visibility: visible;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\" style=\"visibility: visible;\">点击\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\n  \u003Cspan style=\"outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 14px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);visibility: visible;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\" style=\"visibility: visible;\"> “简七读财”\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\n  \u003Cspan style=\"outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 14px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(98, 90, 90);visibility: visible;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\" style=\"visibility: visible;\">，发送消息“\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\n  \u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 14px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;visibility: visible;color: rgb(255, 76, 0);background-color: rgb(255, 254, 213);\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\" style=\"visibility: visible;\">理财\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\n  \u003Cspan style=\"outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 14px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(98, 90, 90);visibility: visible;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\" style=\"visibility: visible;\">”\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Csection style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system, "system-ui", "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;visibility: visible;line-height: 1.5em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cspan style=\"outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 2px;visibility: visible;\">\u003Cspan style=\"outline: 0px;font-size: 14px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(98, 90, 90);caret-color: rgb(98, 90, 90);visibility: visible;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\" style=\"visibility: visible;\">小白轻松入门~\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;visibility: visible;\">\n  \u003Cimg src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fb15eceb3-3af6-4f18-bb12-82bcd09e9129.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">今年的双十一又开始了。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我问小L打算买点啥，她摇摇头：「没什么要买的。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我有点惊讶。她补了一句：「\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我好几年没给自己买过东西了。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我更惊讶了。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002F4cac94d5-6343-470a-8c60-1eba31327af1.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">01 「什么都不敢买」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">小L说，她也研究过为什么不爱买东西，可能和父母的控制欲有关。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">她和父母住在一起，从小父母就喜欢翻她东西，翻过日记、课本、杂物。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">在懵懂的年纪，她也不会说不，只是有时候会把门关上，不和父母沟通。父母认为「啊，孩子青春期到了，是一种叛逆的表现」。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">等到工作后，她一再重申不要进她房间，但父母仍打着为她好、收拾的名义出入她的生活。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「最夸张的一次，我买了乐高的花，拼了一晚上。结果第二天不见了。后来才知道，我妈觉得假花寓意不好，直接扔掉了。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">她苦笑着说：「从那以后，我几乎不买东西了。买了也守不住，没意义。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「不过，我还有一个上锁的抽屉，里面有这些年的回忆，像是巴黎的钥匙扣、朋友寄来的明信片。要是这也被打开扔了，那我就真没招了。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fe1fb9a5f-c706-454f-a804-873bfec90097.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">02 「把钱花光光」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我也见过完全相反的例子。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">在\u003Ca class=\"normal_text_link\" data-itemshowtype=\"0\" data-linktype=\"2\" href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fmp.weixin.qq.com\u002Fs?__biz=MjM5MzA3MjI2NQ==&mid=2650669340&idx=1&sn=9cbe2c96728d21ec968036d6ad11184e&scene=21#wechat_redirect\" linktype=\"text\" style=\"color: rgb(0, 82, 255);;color:#409eff\" target=\"_blank\" textvalue=\"《致富攻略》\">\u003Cspan style=\"color: rgb(0, 82, 255);\" textstyle=\"\">《致富攻略》\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fa>里，有个叫弗兰克的大学生。靠打工\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan data-pm-slice=\"1 1 ["para",{"tagName":"p","attributes":{"style":"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;"},"namespaceURI":"http:\u002F\u002Fwww.w3.org\u002F1999\u002Fxhtml"}]\" leaf=\"\">\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: 14px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);\" textstyle=\"\">（5万美元）\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">和比赛奖金\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: 14px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);\" textstyle=\"\">（15万美元）\u003C\u002Fspan>，一年理论上能攒下20万美元，对一个学生来说，是天文数字。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">但事实上，他入不敷出。派对、请客、送礼……钱来得快，花得更快。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">为什么呢？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;\">\n  \u003Cimg src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fa18e6e7b-4075-4616-947c-a2fb27b1f169.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size:14px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;text-align: center;\">\u003Cspan style=\"color:#646a73;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">图源：《致富攻略》，B站可以看~\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">因为他打小贫穷，妈妈去世后拿到每月800美元保险金，没有人告诉他要存钱。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">花钱，成了他平复伤痛的方式，一种对童年匮乏的补偿。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">每当抑郁或焦虑，他就用消费排遣情绪。因为他熟悉「穷」的感觉，反而对「富有」感到陌生、不安。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">22岁的他，和15岁的他，在金钱这件事上，没什么不同。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002F72da437c-1ccd-4deb-b1e6-1465e60c9cd9.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">03「我不配更好的」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">这两个故事，让我想起了自己。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">从小我就穿表姐的旧衣服。当然，衣服也不是真的旧，我也明白重复利用省钱的道理。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">但久而久之，我养成一种微妙的心态：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我不配拥有「新的」、「好的」东西。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">遇到好的机会，不敢争取，拱手让人；\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">看好某个投资，又害怕「万一我错了呢」，不敢出手；等到事后得到验证，又懊恼当初为什么不坚持。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">可怕的是，当你追根溯源，这些零碎的、看起来毫不相关的选择，背后都来自\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">底层安全感、尊重感的缺失\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">小L用「不买」来保护自己，弗兰克用「乱花」来安抚自己，而我用「退让」来降低风险。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">表面看，我们在和金钱打交道。实际上，\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我们都在用金钱（或不用金钱）应对童年时期那些关于「拥有权、被尊重」的创伤\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">伍尔夫写过「一间自己的房间」，不只是指一个物理空间，它更是一个象征——一个属于自己、可以自由支配的心理空间。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fbf3f0381-bab3-4bb8-909e-07b21f68f7e1.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">04 打破旧模式\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">《也许你该找个人聊聊》这本书，提到一个概念：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">强迫性重复\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">人会下意识地重复熟悉的模式，以为这样能修复过去的伤口。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">结果却恰恰相反，旧伤口被重新打开，我们只会变得更缺乏信心，觉得自己不值得被爱。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cblockquote style=\"margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;border-left: 2px solid #bbbfc4;color:#646A73;margin-inline-start: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">小L每次不买东西，都在强化「我守不住好东西」的信念。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">弗兰克，每次花光钱，都在证明「我就是个穷人」的宿命。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我每次退让，都在告诉自己「我不配更好的」。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003C\u002Fblockquote>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我们以为在保护自己，其实是在重复创伤。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">那怎么打破这个循环呢？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">书里的心理咨询师洛莉，总结了改变的三个步骤——\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">第一步，认识：看见自己的重复\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">问问自己：我是不是总在做某种重复的选择？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">小L一想买东西，会想起「反正会被扔掉」；\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">弗兰克一有钱，就非得花掉才舒服；\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我一遇到机会，第一反应就是「我不行」。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">看见这个模式，是改变的第一步。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">第二步，接纳：不急着改变，先和解\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">这一步听起来有点反常识，但特别重要。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我们不用着急改变，而是先看看：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">不改变带来了什么好处？改变又会带来什么风险？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">小L不买东西，尽管少了很多快乐，但也避免了再次失去的痛苦。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">弗兰克花光钱，缺点是没有积蓄，不过他回到了那个熟悉的、安全的贫穷状态。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我不敢争取，虽然错过了机会，至少不用承担失败的风险。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">心理学里有个概念叫\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">悖论干预\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：当我们接受自己的现状，这本身就是一种选择，不再是之前的无能为力。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">接纳，是为了完成自我和解。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">第三步，重建：小步尝试，建立新体验\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">当我们和自己和解了，就可以慢慢尝试做出不同的选择。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">小L可以试着买一个小东西，放在那个上锁的抽屉里，告诉自己「这个，我可以守住」。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">弗兰克可以试着把钱留下来一个月，看看「有钱」的感觉是不是真的那么可怕。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我可以试着在一个小机会上坚持自己的判断，哪怕只是一次。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">这个过程可能会很慢，因为改变往往是循序渐进的酝酿，又出乎意料的发生。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">心理学家荣格说过：「\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"color:#de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">人们会想尽办法，各种荒谬的办法，来避免面对自己的灵魂。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">但他也说过：「\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"color:#de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">只有直面灵魂的人才能觉醒。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fc47450dc-7898-4d4e-b2b6-5b9f6054a9c9.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">05\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">改变金钱观，不是为了变得更会赚钱或省钱。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">而是为了让自己活得更自在。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">当你真正拥有了「一间自己的房间」，你会发现，金钱终于回到了它该有的位置——\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">它是工具，不是枷锁；是选择，不是命运。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">而你，终于可以自由地决定，要不要在双十一买点什么了。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection data-pm-slice=\"0 0 []\" nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent;margin: 16px 16px 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);font-style: normal;font-variant-ligatures: normal;font-variant-caps: normal;font-weight: 400;orphans: 2;text-indent: 0px;text-transform: none;widows: 2;word-spacing: 0px;-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-decoration-thickness: initial;text-decoration-style: initial;text-decoration-color: initial;clear: both;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;line-height: 2em;\">\u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Csection style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system, system-ui, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n\u003C\u002Fdiv>","","2025-10-22 21:31:00",100,0,"py自动生成","2025-10-22 21:33:28",30,false,17811,"1038002",[],[],[],[],[]]