[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"detail-JP2025101222294266885":3,"related-JP2025101222294266885":30},{"pageSize":4,"id":5,"productLine":6,"status":7,"articleCode":8,"articleType":9,"showStyle":7,"mediaType":10,"articleTitle":11,"coverImage":12,"listImage":12,"introduction":13,"description":14,"nonVipDescription":15,"postTime":16,"viewTime":16,"sortNumber":17,"isFree":18,"isShowList":7,"isRecommend":18,"linkType":7,"isOriginal":6,"hasMiniUrl":18,"hasAdvertising":18,"createBy":19,"updateBy":19,"createTime":20,"visitCount":21,"isLiked":18,"realSearch":22,"isRead":18,"productId":23,"isCollected":18,"collectCount":4,"vipExclusive":18,"allowComment":7,"style":24,"canCopy":18,"likeCount":25,"seoKeywords":15,"articleModuleVoList":26,"extendContentList":27,"noteCount":7,"categoryList":28,"dailyKeywordList":29},10,7631,"1",1,"JP2025101222294266885","1041018",3,"想要的生活，为什么一直没开始?","https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fe0b27574-6fa4-41e1-8b6a-3c3c5c885c33.jpg","你要如何衡量你的人生","\u003Cdiv>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">大家好，我是简七～\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">最近参加了一场老友聚会，大家都有变化：有人犹豫要不要创业，有人索性给自己放个长假，我则一边在家工作、一边陪孩子。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">不同的人生阶段，又把我们拉回那个老问题：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">什么是「好的生活」？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我想起一本小书\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">《你要如何衡量你的人生》\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">，作者是哈佛商学院教授克莱顿·克里斯坦森，《创新者的窘境》作者之一。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">他在2010年的哈佛毕业演讲里，做了一个有意思的转换：把商学院里分析企业的那套理论，移用到个人生活。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">那时他正因淋巴瘤接受化疗，在演讲中提问：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「如果生命走到尽头，你会如何衡量自己的人生？」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">后来，这场演讲被扩写成同名书籍，围绕三个核心问题展开。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">克里斯坦森想交给我们的，不是某个标准答案，而是一套 「如何思考人生」的方法：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">用因果逻辑、资源分配与战略取舍的视角，像经营企业一样，认真经营自己的人生。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002F1297ad55-f852-4d3f-8c2e-972d28df69d4.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">第一问：你的工作，让你感到幸福吗？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">聚会时，有位朋友在纠结，是回归到原来那份\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">体面、收入尚可\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">的工作，还是去做一件\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">全新的、有激情\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">的事业。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">她说，有一段时间她一想到跟原来行业有关的内容，就会生理性恶心。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">而那份工作，她坚持了8年。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">一直以来，她都在寻找「不让自己讨厌工作」的理由，认为哪有人能做「让自己喜欢的工作」呢?\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">书中也提到，太多人都是这样随着年岁的增长，逐渐妥协。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">但克里斯坦森希望读者们也能像自己一样，\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">每天早上一醒来，想到自己能从事现在的工作就感到幸福。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">怎样才能做到呢？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">书里引用了心理学家赫兹伯格的\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">双因素理论\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">，把工作满足感分成两类：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\" textstyle=\"\">基础激励\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：工资、环境、稳定性——它们让你「不辞职」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\" textstyle=\"\">动力激励\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：成就感、成长、意义感——它们让你「想留下」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我们大多数人，都活在「基础激励」里。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">不是因为不想要激情，而是因为现实太重：房贷、孩子、父母、稳定...转行的代价太高了。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">但克里斯坦森提出了一个企业管理中的\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">资源配置理论\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cblockquote style=\"margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;border-left: 2px solid #bbbfc4;color:#646A73;margin-inline-start: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">一家企业把资源投在哪里，战略就在哪里。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">不是你说什么，而是你的资源流向哪里。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003C\u002Fblockquote>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">同样，你的人生战略，不是你说想要什么，而是你的时间、精力、才华投资在哪里。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">他问了一个扎心的问题：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cblockquote style=\"margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;border-left: 2px solid #bbbfc4;color:#646A73;margin-inline-start: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">你说你想转行，但这周你花了几个小时去研究新领域?\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">你说你想做有意义的事，但这个月你为此迈出过哪怕一小步吗?\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003C\u002Fblockquote>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">很多时候，我们不是没有选择，而是我们的资源从来没有真正流向我们认为重要的事。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">关键是，开始分配资源。哪怕一周只有3小时，也是真实的开始。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002F3a7e3232-9724-44ca-95f4-11ba272ab8d5.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">第二问：你最重要的关系，健康吗?\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">这个问题更扎心。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">克里斯坦森回哈佛参加同学聚会时，发现那些「看起来很成功」的同学，很多人并不快乐：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">有人经历多次不愉快的婚姻\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">有人和孩子多年不说话\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">有人因为失控的选择锒铛入狱\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">他问自己：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">为什么这些聪明人，会在关键时刻做出那么糟的选择?\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">他的答案是——\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我们花了太多精力投资职业增长，却几乎不投资亲密关系。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">可人这一生，真正带来持续幸福感的，从来不是简历上的光鲜，而是：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">晚饭时有没有人想和你说说话\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">失落时有没有人真的理解你\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">你累的时候，有没有一个可以放下防备的地方\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">克里斯坦森在书里用了他在商业领域提出的\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「雇佣理论」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan style=\"color:#646a73;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">(Jobs to be Done)\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cblockquote style=\"margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;border-left: 2px solid #bbbfc4;color:#646A73;margin-inline-start: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">顾客购买产品，不是为了拥有产品，而是为了「雇佣」这个产品来完成某项任务。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003C\u002Fblockquote>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">同理，你被「雇佣」成为伴侣、父母、朋友——但你有没有真正理解「客户」的需求?\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我也犯过这样的错误。给家人买很多自认为的好东西，或者带他们去自己喜欢的地方旅行。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">但后来才发现，有时候只是「我以为我该做的」，对方真正需要的，可能是温柔的回应，或者耐心的倾听。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">更可怕的是，克里斯坦森用\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cspan style=\"background-color: rgb(255, 218, 169);\" textstyle=\"\">「好钱与坏钱」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">理论解释了为什么我们总是忽视关系：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cblockquote style=\"margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;border-left: 2px solid #bbbfc4;color:#646A73;margin-inline-start: 16px;\">\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「好钱」是那些能带来长期竞争力的资金，比如研发、人才培养；\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「坏钱」则是追求短期回报的收入。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n  \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;font-size: 14px;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\"> 很多公司在早期会因为生存压力，被「坏钱」牵着走，结果牺牲了长远的成长。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003C\u002Fblockquote>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我们在生活中，也常常这样：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">回复一封工作邮件，就像挣「坏钱」——立竿见影；\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">陪孩子玩一小时，就像投「好钱」——短期看不到\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">即时回报\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">，但长期能让关系更稳固。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">我们的大脑会不断诱导我们：「今天先把这个项目做完，周末再好好陪家人。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">但关系不是可以「补课」的。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">孩子3岁时需要你陪他搭积木，他13岁时就不需要了。伴侣在脆弱时需要你的拥抱，如果那一刻你不在，信任就开始流失。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">克里斯坦森说：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">想让关系成为你幸福的源泉，要在对这种关系有需求前就进行投资。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Ffff63520-44cc-41b5-b170-d8dbd7ad6aa0.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">第三问：你是否过着正直的生活?\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">这一问，不太好理解。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">克里斯坦森讲了这样一个故事：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">他的很多哈佛同学，事业顺风顺水，却因为「边界模糊」的行为被判刑。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">有人挪用公款，但「只是暂时借用」;\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">有人伪造数据，但「所有人都这么做」;\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">有人背叛伴侣，但「只是一时冲动」。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">他们从没想过自己会走到那一步，但每次决定时都想：「就这一次，没关系。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">书中有一句让我印象极深的话：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"background-color:rgba(254, 212, 164, 0.8);\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「100%的坚持，比98%的坚持更容易。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">因为那2%的例外，往往会成为你彻底偏航的起点。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">道德边界一旦松动，你就很难再拉回来。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">如果把人生当作一家公司，「声誉」就是最核心的无形资产——\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">你一旦失去它，别的资产都很难保值。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Csection nodeleaf=\"\" style=\"margin: 0 16px;padding: 0px;\">\n  \u003Cimg alt=\"图片\" src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002F85ddfbc7-8c4e-4140-bb07-20db18293cf7.jpg\">\n \u003C\u002Fsection>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin: 0 16px 16px 16px;line-height: 2em;text-align: center;color: #de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">写在最后\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">这本书，其实有点像「人生战略课」。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">三个问题，就像坐标系一样，帮我们随时校准自己的人生轨道。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">工作\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：我正在把时间与精力投向真正带来「激励因素」的工作吗？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">关系\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：有没有「雷打不动」的陪伴时间？对方真正的需求是什么？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">正直\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">：我的底线是否写清楚、立得住？\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">再具体一点，不妨做几个小动作：\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">每周为「真正重要的一件事」预约3小时；\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">问问你在乎的人：「我能怎么更好地支持你？」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cul class=\"list-paddingleft-1\" style=\"list-style-type: disc;margin: 0;padding-left: 30px;\">\n  \u003Cli>\u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;line-height: 2em;margin: 0;display: inline;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">写下3条你的「不为清单」，一次也不可以。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\u003C\u002Fli>\n \u003C\u002Ful>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">就像作者强调的那样，\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003Cspan style=\"color:#de7802;\">\u003Cstrong>\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">「别把最好的思考只用在工作，把它也用来设计你的人生。」\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fstrong>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">当资源开始持续流向你真正在意的人和事，我们会在行动里，慢慢长成那个有温度、有力量的自己。\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">\u003Cbr>\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n \u003Cp style=\"font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;margin-top:0;margin-bottom:0;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;line-height: 2em;\">\u003Cspan leaf=\"\">晚安\u003Cimg src=\"https:\u002F\u002Fimage.jane7.com\u002Fb069610e-569e-48a2-83a7-7267bd1ff137.jpg\">\u003C\u002Fspan>\u003C\u002Fp>\n\u003C\u002Fdiv>","","2025-10-12 22:28:00",100,0,"py自动生成","2025-10-12 22:29:42",39,false,17788,"1038002",5,[],[],[],[],[]]